I have a friend who worked for the LDS church compiling social statistics of the membership. She shared a fact that I found horrifying...
Temple recommend holding members of the church (those in full activity), who were single and over the age of 35 reported 50:1 = Women:Men. This cold hard statistic is super depressing for a single LDS woman hoping to marry an active LDS man.
This statistic has been a "go to" in many of the dating conversations I have with Sassy as we try to make sense of why dating seems so impossible. That statistic even provoked an idea to start a Mormon Nunnery. We figured that if 98% of the active women in the church will statistically die alone, and we know so many of them to be fun and kind and interesting and capable, a lot of good could be done if we productively joined forces similar to those of traditional Nunneries.
Of course, we've never done anything about that thought because truth is, deep down, we really are hoping to be in the 2%. I have been known to do all kinds of things to keep that hope alive, like wear jewelry with the word "Hope" stamped all over it...or tell myself that there really are thousands of good men out there but I just haven't met them yet...or silently pray that a good man will finally get out of his bad marriage and be thrilled when he learns what I have to offer.
And then something will be brought to my attention and I'm suddenly embarrassed and apologetic for my silly tactics. Something like the essay found here:
Warning, it is long and insane...but there is a big part of me that feels certain that it is representative of the majority of the men in my dating pool.
I've had some time to simmer down and I'm left with two thoughts in response to the essay:
1.) I will most certainly die alone...it seems the only fate for a chubby girl
2.) I am sooooooo lucky to be chubby...it means I have absolutely zero risk of ever being` married to that guy
(I'm copying, in full, the essay found at the link above...because if the dude sobers up and removes it, I want to be able to come back comedic purposes later.)